How to set (and stick to) gentle boundaries that work
Why gentle boundaries work The theory around attachment styles and how important a child’s attachment to a primary care giver is for their emotional and physical wellbeing isn’t new (check out Bowlby’s work around 1958). But more and more areContinue reading “How to set (and stick to) gentle boundaries that work”
How to find time for me when the kids aren’t at school
Parenthood is demanding. Juggling life, work, friends, family and trying to carve out a few minutes a week just for you. It can all seem like an impossible task. Often what gets neglected is time for you. And a littleContinue reading “How to find time for me when the kids aren’t at school”
I don’t enjoy being a mum like I thought I would. What can I do?
Most people have an idea of what they think parenthood will look like. And it was probably a lot less frustrating, messy and tiring. In reality, every mum will go through hard times, every mum will struggle and many will wonderContinue reading “I don’t enjoy being a mum like I thought I would. What can I do?”
How to stay calm when your kids won’t listen
Have you been there? You’ve asked your little one to get their shoes on. The second time you asked, you were still relatively calm. By the third time you’re starting to feel a bit annoyed. And when you had to askContinue reading “How to stay calm when your kids won’t listen”
How to talk to your child about death & dying
It’s tempting to try and avoid the topic of death with our children as even for us adults death can be overwhelming and difficult to talk about. Many parents think that talking about death might scare or upset their childrenContinue reading “How to talk to your child about death & dying”
Why your emotions overwhelm you
Did you ever get taught how to manage your emotions, or how to recognise them when they come up? Chances are the answer is no. Emotional literacy skills don’t get taught at school, even at a higher level like university.Continue reading “Why your emotions overwhelm you”
Breaking free from the constraints of your past
This is a blog about how CBT works to help you improve the way you feel (wrapped up in a story about watermelons).. Have you heard of square watermelons?! These are your bog-standard round watermelons that have been grown withinContinue reading “Breaking free from the constraints of your past”
How to respond when people tell you you’re parenting all wrong
Three times this last month I’ve been told by three different people that my daughter is “too much”. I’ve been told that she’s “too emotional”, “too demonstrative”, “impolite” and “inconsiderate”. Although it’s true that she can sometimes be these things,Continue reading “How to respond when people tell you you’re parenting all wrong”
Three reasons your child doesn’t want to sleep on their own (and what you can do about it)
I wasn’t blessed with a naturally “good sleeper”. My daughter came out switched on and ready to go, even as a really young baby, she found it hard to drift off and fall asleep. I let her sleep on meContinue reading “Three reasons your child doesn’t want to sleep on their own (and what you can do about it)”
Dealing with lack of sleep
I don’t know of many parents who’ve never had to deal with the excruciating tiredness caused by night after night of broken sleep. The physical benefits of getting enough sleep are well known, but sleep has a massive impact onContinue reading “Dealing with lack of sleep”
A Love Letter To My Adrenals
To my wonderful adrenals, Before I tell you what I need to tell you, I wanted to let you know that I am so grateful to you for looking out for me. No matter what else is going on inContinue reading “A Love Letter To My Adrenals”
The problem with punishment
A generation or so ago, parents still held a very clear idea of how children “should” behave. Tides are changing and as we’re becoming more aware of how a child develops and what’s going on in their brain we’re startingContinue reading “The problem with punishment”
Do you feel like you never have enough time for yourself?
One of the biggest challenges my clients say they face is not having enough time for themselves since having kids. I totally get this – literally overnight we became responsible for not only taking care of ourselves but every, singleContinue reading “Do you feel like you never have enough time for yourself?”
How thinking life is hard, keeps us locked in a hard life
I was talking to my friend recently, it was lockdown, the school had closed, my cleaner was no longer coming and I still had my full work load. I was now working full-time, with my daughter at home all dayContinue reading “How thinking life is hard, keeps us locked in a hard life”
Addicted to the screen: What screen time does to the body and why it’s so addictive
Do your kids constantly want to have more screen time? Do you wish they preferred to play outside, with their friend or toys? Do you feel like you never have enough hours in the day yourself to do the thingsContinue reading “Addicted to the screen: What screen time does to the body and why it’s so addictive”
What to do when we lose our cool and why it can be a good thing
What makes you feel like a bad mum? For a lot of us, it’s losing our cool, snappy, shouting, being generally grouchy and nagging our kids. When we shout at our kids, not only do we not model to themContinue reading “What to do when we lose our cool and why it can be a good thing”
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