How to set (and stick to) gentle boundaries that work

Why gentle boundaries work The theory around attachment styles and how important a child’s attachment to a primary care giver is for their emotional and physical wellbeing isn’t new (check out Bowlby’s work around 1958). But more and more are now realising the importance of the attachment within their parenting. And reaping the benefits. Attachment-basedContinue reading “How to set (and stick to) gentle boundaries that work”

How to find time for me when the kids aren’t at school

Parenthood is demanding. Juggling life, work, friends, family and trying to carve out a few minutes a week just for you. It can all seem like an impossible task. Often what gets neglected is time for you. And a little self care is often overshadowed by the constant list of chores, playdates and dinners.  JustContinue reading “How to find time for me when the kids aren’t at school”

I don’t enjoy being a mum like I thought I would. What can I do?

Most people have an idea of what they think parenthood will look like. And it was probably a lot less frustrating, messy and tiring. In reality, every mum will go through hard times, every mum will struggle and many will wonder why they don’t enjoy parenthood the way they expected to. Whether you’re a seasoned mumContinue reading “I don’t enjoy being a mum like I thought I would. What can I do?”

How to stay calm when your kids won’t listen

Have you been there? You’ve asked your little one to get their shoes on. The second time you asked, you were still relatively calm. By the third time you’re starting to feel a bit annoyed. And when you had to ask the fourth time, you lost every ounce of patience you had. And shouty mama cameContinue reading “How to stay calm when your kids won’t listen”

How to talk to your child about death & dying

It’s tempting to try and avoid the topic of death with our children as even for us adults death can be overwhelming and difficult to talk about. Many parents think that talking about death might scare or upset their children or they just aren’t clear on how to go about having this kind of sensitiveContinue reading “How to talk to your child about death & dying”

Breaking free from the constraints of your past

This is a blog about how CBT works to help you improve the way you feel (wrapped up in a story about watermelons).. Have you heard of square watermelons?! These are your bog-standard round watermelons that have been grown within a glass box. This was a trend started in Japan and as the watermelon grows,Continue reading “Breaking free from the constraints of your past”

How to respond when people tell you you’re parenting all wrong

Three times this last month I’ve been told by three different people that my daughter is “too much”. I’ve been told that she’s “too emotional”, “too demonstrative”, “impolite” and “inconsiderate”. Although it’s true that she can sometimes be these things, she is often emotionally aware, capable, polite and thoughtful too. She’s only 6 and she’sContinue reading “How to respond when people tell you you’re parenting all wrong”

Three reasons your child doesn’t want to sleep on their own (and what you can do about it)

I wasn’t blessed with a naturally “good sleeper”. My daughter came out switched on and ready to go, even as a really young baby, she found it hard to drift off and fall asleep. I let her sleep on me during her daytime naps, fed her to sleep every night (and back to sleep, eachContinue reading “Three reasons your child doesn’t want to sleep on their own (and what you can do about it)”

Dealing with lack of sleep

I don’t know of many parents who’ve never had to deal with the excruciating tiredness caused by night after night of broken sleep. The physical benefits of getting enough sleep are well known, but sleep has a massive impact on our emotional and mental health too. After a good night’s sleep we feel calmer andContinue reading “Dealing with lack of sleep”

A Love Letter To My Adrenals

To my wonderful adrenals, Before I tell you what I need to tell you, I wanted to let you know that I am so grateful to you for looking out for me. No matter what else is going on in my life, you’re always there to help me deal with dangers when I need youContinue reading “A Love Letter To My Adrenals”