Breaking free from the constraints of your past

This is a blog about how CBT works to help you improve the way you feel (wrapped up in a story about watermelons).. Have you heard of square watermelons?! These are your bog-standard round watermelons that have been grown within a glass box. This was a trend started in Japan and as the watermelon grows,Continue reading “Breaking free from the constraints of your past”

How to respond when people tell you you’re parenting all wrong

Three times this last month I’ve been told by three different people that my daughter is “too much”. I’ve been told that she’s “too emotional”, “too demonstrative”, “impolite” and “inconsiderate”. Although it’s true that she can sometimes be these things, she is often emotionally aware, capable, polite and thoughtful too. She’s only 6 and she’sContinue reading “How to respond when people tell you you’re parenting all wrong”

Three reasons your child doesn’t want to sleep on their own (and what you can do about it)

I wasn’t blessed with a naturally “good sleeper”. My daughter came out switched on and ready to go, even as a really young baby, she found it hard to drift off and fall asleep. I let her sleep on me during her daytime naps, fed her to sleep every night (and back to sleep, eachContinue reading “Three reasons your child doesn’t want to sleep on their own (and what you can do about it)”

Dealing with lack of sleep

I don’t know of many parents who’ve never had to deal with the excruciating tiredness caused by night after night of broken sleep. The physical benefits of getting enough sleep are well known, but sleep has a massive impact on our emotional and mental health too. After a good night’s sleep we feel calmer andContinue reading “Dealing with lack of sleep”

A Love Letter To My Adrenals

To my wonderful adrenals, Before I tell you what I need to tell you, I wanted to let you know that I am so grateful to you for looking out for me. No matter what else is going on in my life, you’re always there to help me deal with dangers when I need youContinue reading “A Love Letter To My Adrenals”

The problem with punishment

A generation or so ago, parents still held a very clear idea of how children “should” behave. Tides are changing and as we’re becoming more aware of how a child develops and what’s going on in their brain we’re starting to understand more about why they act the way they do; why children can seemContinue reading “The problem with punishment”

Do you feel like you never have enough time for yourself?

One of the biggest challenges my clients say they face is not having enough time for themselves since having kids. I totally get this – literally overnight we became responsible for not only taking care of ourselves but every, single need of another little human. In the early days they really are reliant on usContinue reading “Do you feel like you never have enough time for yourself?”

How thinking life is hard, keeps us locked in a hard life

I was talking to my friend recently, it was lockdown, the school had closed, my cleaner was no longer coming and I still had my full work load. I was now working full-time, with my daughter at home all day and all of the foundations that I had carefully crafted into my life as aContinue reading “How thinking life is hard, keeps us locked in a hard life”

Addicted to the screen: What screen time does to the body and why it’s so addictive

Do your kids constantly want to have more screen time? Do you wish they preferred to play outside, with their friend or toys? Do you feel like you never have enough hours in the day yourself to do the things you want or need? But can easily waste 5 minutes here, 20 minutes there onContinue reading “Addicted to the screen: What screen time does to the body and why it’s so addictive”

What to do when we lose our cool and why it can be a good thing

What makes you feel like a bad mum? For a lot of us, it’s losing our cool, snappy, shouting, being generally grouchy and nagging our kids. When we shout at our kids, not only do we not model to them how to manage feelings of anger and frustration but it can also make everyone feelContinue reading “What to do when we lose our cool and why it can be a good thing”